Thoughts Become Things – Really? I Thought this Sh*t into Being?

A couple of weeks back I was driving home from a weekend with my dear friend, Stacey. We are exploring how to collaborate and support in each other as we move towards our shared and individual visions.

I love my weekends with Stacey! I am so recharged afterwards and am blessed to have her in my life! We first met just 2 years ago at an Infinite Possibilities Trainer the Trainer event and it was an instantaneous connection! We knew then that we would one day work together yet had no idea what that would look like. So we let it be, to show up when the time was right and we were ready.

Back to the drive home, a drive that takes about 6 hours allowing for plenty of time for introspection, daydreaming, and singing! For this trip I decided to listen to the recorded version of Mike Dooley’s Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams. Every time I listen to this, there is always a new nugget or two that pop up and I say, ‘YES!’ This time the ‘aha’ that knocked me upside the head nearly had me off on the side of the road!

Mike was deep into exploring one of the foundational ‘Truths of Being’, Thoughts Become Things and one of the questions that often comes up about how some of the things that come into our life, we never had thoughts about.

I found myself thinking back to my mother’s death or rather the nature of her death. A drunk driver killed her in 1997. This event rocked me to my core and for many years afterwards, I existed in a pretty dark place. So, I asked myself, ‘what thoughts did I have that may have brought this event into my life?’ I might add I asked that question out loud and with some disbelief/skepticism that any thought I might have had could possibly result in my mother’s death particularly the circumstances of her death!

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Well, let me tell you that the floodgates of my memory opened and all this wisdom and knowledge crashed around me like the waves of the ocean before a big storm hits!

I was coming of age in the 60’s.  A child of a feminist, I did my share of protesting the conflict in Vietnam, the inequality of women in the workplace and at home, etc. There always seemed to be a ‘cause’ to rally around. Then all of these causes began to fade a bit and/or fell off my radar. Life happened, including getting married and having children. For a time, being a voice for my small children became a ‘cause’ until they easily and confidently could speak for themselves.

In the years preceding my mother’s death, I remembered thinking and saying to others that I (we) needed a cause for to rally around and bring people together. A few ideas came to mind during this time but none truly resonated with me or those in my immediate life circle.

Fast forward, a drunk driver kills my mother and I jump into the cause of MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Driving. WHAM – a cause is born! I embraced this cause with a passion I had never felt before and with every fiber of my being until; it began to fade, to no longer resonate with me. Now what?

Do I believe that my having ‘thoughts’ about ‘needing’ a cause single handedly brought about my mother’s death? No, that would be just a tad arrogant and misses the mark! However, I do understand that we have somewhere in the neighborhood of 70,000 plus thoughts a day, 95% of those on a subconscious level! And since we all are doing the same there is no way to connect all the dots from the starting point to the ending point, what ever that may look like. My mother had her thoughts, the woman who killed her had thoughts, and so on. The point is, I was searching/asking for a ‘cause’ and the Universe heard me and delivered, just not in a fashion I had ever have dreamed of!

Our thoughts can set us on a slippery slope at times and it only makes sense to develop a higher awareness of our thoughts and consciously choose the good ones!

Through the daily Notes From the Universe, Mike Dooley’s book, the Train the Trainer event, Andy Dooley’s Vibration Activation, the research and teachings of neuroscientist Dr. Joe Dispenza, Brene Brown’s perfect little book, The Gifts of Imperfection, and so much more, today I do have a new cause, perhaps THE cause that has been waiting for me all along to SEE it and EMBRACE it: to share with others that they do have the power to create their own lives, that we are all works in progress, and that we are all divine beings of light!

Shine your light, share your gifts, choose to be the best YOU each day, and

 

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Leaps of Faith

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When was the last time you took a leap of faith?

Standing on the ledge, peering over and the argument begins: oh no, I don’t think I can…I really shouldn’t….the time is just not right…and the conversation goes on and on and on….until finally, you give in to the voices telling you no, you can’t, you shouldn’t and you return to the safety of the familiar.

But what if, what if you said yes, yes to YOURSELF?  What if you decide, just this once, to invest in YOURSELF?  How difficult would that be, how awkward would that feel?

Today, take that leap of faith in YOURSELF and join me for the Infinite Possibilities Playshops and take a journey of empowerment and understanding that life is Magical and You are unimaginably powerful.  There is greatness in all of us just waiting to emerge.

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Is this YOUR time?

There is a lot of conversation these days around the globe and water coolers, at book club gatherings and in playgrounds, posts in blogs and on FaceBook, that women are/will be leading a shift, a movement towards a more compassionate, purposeful, and abundant world, for all.  No longer is the ‘standard operating procedure’ standard nor acceptable.  We can see that it no longer works, if in fact it ever truly worked!

We all have that ability to create our lives, to live the life we were meant to live which is not one of striving, but is in fact one of thriving.  There is no limit to abundance, there is no true lack, we just need to learn to reframe our brains, let go of limiting beliefs, step out of the past and into the present.  And yes, it is easier to do this then we may think! Will it happen overnight?  No, but do the work, consistently, and with firm intention, and the results will amaze you!

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Begin with connecting to the ‘feeling’ of the change you want in your life.  When that change happens – the job of your dreams is placed in front of you, your soul-mate shows up, you are heading out on that dream vacation – how will it feel?  Close your eyes and connect with the emotion, the feeling that comes with the change you desire.

You see, to BE it, one needs to FEEL it!

Are you ready to invest in you?
Are you ready to focus time on yourself?
Are you ready to return to your essential self?
Are you ready to move into a new expression of you?

What’s that you said?  Yes, you are ready?

Then don’t hesitate! – Click Here to learn more about the Infinite Possibilities PlayShops and Register today! 

 

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A Story of Sisterhood

This story begins in the early eighties with a few women who moved from Florida to Southwest Colorado and then connected with a few more women living in Durango.

In the beginning they came together every Wednesday evening to sew; cross stitch, embroidery, quilt, and mend. More significantly, they came together to share the uniquely feminine experience of being mothers and wives, sisters and daughters: of raising children and husbands, suffering unimaginable losses and reveling in joyous highs! With unwavering support they rose to the challenges each woman faced in her personal life by simply being there, for each other, always, and without hesitation. They dubbed themselves, ‘Sewing Sisters West’, a.k.a. ‘The Ya-yas’.

As the years passed, sisters moved towards other interests, from the area, moved into they’re next journey. Some returned and others were welcomed into the fold. The children grew and struck out on their own paths and the once weekly gatherings shifted to monthly, sometimes quarterly get-togethers. Spurred by one Sister’s love of the written word and a desire to strengthen their connection, this diverse group of women transitioned to a book club. They returned to regular monthly meetings to discuss the selected book, share food and drink and, yes, family updates always work into the conversation. Three special annual events developed over the years that no

Sister will miss if at all possible! Camp Clay, the summer sleep over; Electra Lake, dinner at the Club followed by dessert and discussion at the Cabin; and Twelfth Night, they’re own special way of celebrating the Yuletide Season. Tiaras are the recommended dress code for all three events! Now referring to themselves as ‘The Crowned Heads; A Royal Reading Group’, a.k.a. the ‘Divas’, together they explore the written word in it’s many different facets and continue to travel this journey of life with support close at hand.

They were and still are mothers and wives, sisters and daughters, best friends and for some, now grandmothers and great aunties. They choose traditions developed over the years to the rigidity of rules. They travel this path of life together and at times alone.

This remarkable tribe of women possesses a divine energy and I am honored to celebrate them and grateful to be one among them.

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You’ve Come A Long Way Baby!

If you were around back in 1968, the above slogan may be familiar to you. Virginia Slims, those oh so slim and, dare I say sexy, cigarettes targeting the feminine market utilized this slogan as well as a few others: ‘It’s a Woman Thing’ and ‘Find Your Voice’.  I was reminded of this marketing campaign when I first read about Emma Axlerod, Elena Tsemberis and Sammi Siegel, three 16 year old high school students from Montclair, NJ.  The connection?  While tackling a civics assignment designed to engage youth in politics they discovered that there had not been a woman moderator for a Presidential Debate in 20 years!  You’ve come a long way baby?  Apparently not as far as we would like.  This discovery spurred these three young Shenomenal Women into action!

Armed with print outs of comments from their petition launched on Change.org and more than 100,000 signatures, they attempted to deliver the petition in person to the Commission on Presidential Debates.  Right you are, they were turned away.  Undeterred by the rejection, their efforts then hit main stream media.  Results, for the first time in 20 years a woman, Candy Crowley of CNN, will serve as the moderator during a presidential debate.

You may wonder what’s the big deal, why is it so important that a woman be a moderator for at least one of the debates?  Simply put the issues near and dear to women are quite different then those of men.  Most women are concerned with issues surrounding ‘caring’ and ‘thriving’. It is in our nature, as women, to want those close to us and those not so, to not simply survive, but to thrive, and for this to happen we need to care, care about and for each other.

My thanks to these three young women who found their voices and used them to remind us that in our efforts to become truly equal, we indeed have come a long way but our journey is not yet over.

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I Believe……………

Often times so much can be said in a few carefully chosen words put together in a series of beautiful sentences.  Here is one of my favorites:

“I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.” ― Audrey Hepburn

 

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Unwrapped

“Don’t judge a book by its cover.”  How many times have we heard and used this axiom?  More times than we can count I am sure!  In my maiden blog posting I shared how my mother worked hard to instill this into the core values of her five children.  It isn’t always easy to do and too often we can find ourselves getting caught up in the moment, slipping into that state of judgement.

So here is the challenge: in this day of rampant expose via all the social media outlets, is it possible to get to ‘know’ someone beyond the outer persona before judging?  Whoa, and, wait for it, who are we to judge?

I do believe there are methods to peel away the layers, even of those individuals in the public domain, and obtain a better understanding of what makes them tick.

Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta.  Name ring a bell?  She is Lady Gaga.  To some she may border on the outrageous, some may have no interest in knowing what makes this young woman tick, others may embrace her sense of unique style and independence, and many, may have already condemned her.  Take moment to get to know this young Shenomenal Woman and you will see that she has a level of wisdom not often present in a young person of just 26 years of age.

From a young age Lady Gaga’s creative energy was manifested in many different ways often causing her supportive and loving parents to wonder if their Stefani was ok.  They new their daughter was on a journey laid before her, a path she had no choice but to follow if she were to stay true to who she was meant to be.  And Stefani knew they would always be there for her when she needed them.

Bullied as a young teen, Lady Gaga does not embrace the title of ‘victim’ and while she recognizes the plight of the victim she is challenging us all to try to understand the nature of the bully, too often victims as well.  To that end, in 2011, she partnered with her mother, Cynthia Germanotta, to launch the “Born this Way Foundation” whose mission is ‘to foster a more accepting society, where differences are embraced and individuality is celebrated. The Foundation is dedicated to creating a safe community that helps connect young people with the skills and opportunities they need to build a braver, kinder world.

We believe that everyone has the right to feel safe, to be empowered and to make a difference in the world. Together, we will move towards acceptance, bravery and love.’

I invite you take a few moments, log onto the Foundation’s web site and learn more about this growing movement, after all who would not like to live in braver, kinder world?

“I am always conscious of empowering people around me.  I want everyone on my team to know that they all play the same equal part that I play in making everything happen that happens every day.”    Lady Gaga, Shenomenal Woman

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Ginny

April 30, 2012 marks the 15th anniversary of the death of my mother, Mary Virginia ‘Ginny’ Tighe Fleming.  I mark this date and anniversary not because she died rather due to the nature of her death, at the hands of another.

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My mom was the first Shenomenal Woman I have had the honor to know.  She taught myself and my siblings the importance of not judging people without taking the time to get to know them.  She taught us that civic engagement was a responsibility.  She taught her daughters that their gender should never be a stumbling block  in attaining their dreams.  She taught usthat having those dreams and working towards their reality was a path well chosen.  She taught us that you are never too old to learn something new.  She taught us that reinventing yourself may be challenging and in the end worth the effort.  She taught me to stay open to the possibilities.  Perfect?  Perhaps not but to me a  Shenomenal Woman, the first of many in my life!

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